I mean, duh.
WHAT ARE GOALS?
In my terms, it’s “SHIT YOU NEED TO GET DONE TO NOT FEEL LIKE A HORRID WASTE OF OXYGEN“, but for the non-obessive/compulsive fellows, it’s “THINGS I CAN ACCOMPLISH TO EITHER REACH A MILESTONE OR A MILESTONE I’D LIKE TO ACCOMPLISH IN ONE SHOT“, which can be a little risky, if ya ask me.
WHY IS SHOOTING FOR ONE GOAL RISKY, LO?
Because I think it leaves a lot of room for failure. And yes, I agree that in order to become a major-badass like myself (jk), you have to fail in order to toughen up and focus on what you really want. Which is why I set maybe three or four smaller goals that will ultimately get me to where I need to be.
WHAT ARE YOUR GOALS THEN?
Well, sheesh, way to put me on the spot–but for me, it’s to be an overall more positive person, to vibrate higher, and to ultimately prepare myself to be a fucking awesome mother (SOMEDAY!).
SO WHAT’S YOUR BREAKDOWN, THEN, EH?!
Okay, okay, I’ll tell you!
- Eat Healthy — healthy body, healthy skin, healthy mindset! I’d have to say that what you put into your body has a resonating effect not just throughout you physically (Taco Bell may be my one exception…#hehe), but mentally, too. Which is why, starting next week, I’m heading back down the pescatarian route, which means I can eat veggies, berries, nuts, dairy (limited), eggs, and seafood. I was a vegan from 2015-2016, but it left me sick almost all of the time and exhausted. I’m sure if I wanted to take a crack at it again, I could, but with more knowledge of what worked for me and what didn’t (I’m looking at you, soy fish sticks–yikes). But for now, I’m setting this small goal (to transition into a healthy pescatarian lifestyle) in order to continue to eat as mindfully as possible.
- Move Regularly — walk, jog, lift some weights (ladies, trust: you won’t bulk up like a dude–it’s good for you to throw in some strength training!), force my dog to run with me, etc. The usual, my fellow friends. Nothing too out of the ordinary from what I usually do. But I’d like to start working out in the evenings and outside from now on. I notice that when I start to get busy or super stressed out, my work-out routine starts to lag because I’m so distracted and/or focused on other things. And when I don’t get my sweat on, I can feel it just mentally-plugging up inside of me. I stress run, I fun run, I, again, force my dog to run with me–sometimes, ya just gotta get it out! I’m setting this small goal (to maintain an active lifestyle) in order to keep my heart healthy, my blood flowing, and my body fit in order to carry a little bundle of fun someday (AGAIN–SOMEDAY–STOP ASKING ME WHEN)! 😉
- Focus On The Good — this here is a big one for me. I find it soooo easy to be hard on myself or to assume that people think the worst of me. But, and this is a huge “but” and it cannot lie, I’ve come to realize that HOW SOMEONE TREATS YOU IS THEIR PATH, BUT HOW I REACT IS MINE!!! This is HUGE. I constantly would over-analyze when something would go wrong in my life (i.e. old relationships not working out, knowing that people are willingly spreading complete lies about my family and myself, feeling guilty for things I couldn’t control, knowing the truth about a situation and a person but taking the high road, etc.). But I got to a point in my life–call it pushing thirty or realizing that I don’t have to take anyone’s BS–that I can’t control it all. I can’t control how people perceive me and my actions. But what I can control are my actions, how I treat other people, and how I react to negativity. So instead of calling someone out, which I’ve done in the past (after abuse or negativity or not being treated kindly for years), I focus on what they’re lacking in their lives. Instead of beating myself up when things don’t work out or letting someone’s empty words and lies affect me, I allow myself to acknowledge how I feel in the moment, think on it, think of what the other person might be going through, feel sorry for them for a minute, and then let it go. So by setting this small goal (to focus on my reactions instead of someone’s negative actions), it will ultimately help me become more mindful of my demeanor, the vibes I put off, and the vibes I want to attract.
DAMN, GURL. THAT’S TIGHT!
You’re absolutely correct.
SO YOU’RE SAYING THAT BY SETTING GOALS, I CAN BE A SEXY, BAD-ASS, TOO?!
Is Taco Bell the best fast food out there?! WELL THEN, YES.
So, by setting goals and aligning your mindset to radiate positivity and kindness, that makes you a sexy, bad-ass, too. Because when it comes down to it, when you know what you want, when you make a plan, and when you reach that goal that you’ve had your mind on for days/weeks/months/years, what could possibly be better? –AND DON’T SAY A CRUNCHWRAP SUPREME. BECAUSE I’LL SLAP YA!
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